I get it. That dude just won’t get a grip. Your boss is being an asshole. Your roommate won’t listen. Your so called “friend” is just using you. Basically, you’ve got your share of social blind spots, and you want to do something about it. The thought creeps into your head “Well, I’m a magical practitioner. Why not just handle it magically?”
Slow your roll.
You’re probably justifiably angry and annoyed, but before your go casting goat–a malefic intended spell–please take a moment and ask yourself these questions.
- Are there mundane ways by which you can resolve your problem?
Have you done everything that you can to resolve the situation without magic? Yes, we are magical practitioners, but we also need to have the courage to face our fears, which in and of itself is linked to our efficacy in magic. Have you tried talking to your boss about his or her behavior? Have you filed a complaint? That douche who was using you for your benefits and services, have you considered just removing yourself from his or her realm of influence?
The things which haven’t been done can be indicators of a deeper personal problem involving will and character on your part. This is not always the case, but it is good practice to figure out the reasoning behind your reasoning, so that you are empowering yourself to tackle the obstacle like a warrior–head on and face-to-face.
Of course there are times when you’ve exhausted all measures and have no other choice, but at least you are saving yourself some much needed time otherwise.Which brings me to my next question…
- How much time have you spent on the issue or problem?
There are two ways to look at this. On one hand, is the person WORTH the time and effort involved with cursing? On the other hand, and following up on the preceding sentiment, are you willing to put in MORE time in addition to your mundane efforts to curse this person? Really, think about it. How much time have you sat in worry or upset at your boss? How much time have you invested in that guy who decided to break his promise? Is that person worth the extra 3 minutes to an hour just to get vengeance. (Okay, I’ll admit, if I could knock it down to 3 minutes I probably would be tempted to skip this step and look at questions 1 and 3…)
Sometimes it’s just not worth it. It hurts because you’re probably screaming inside out of the desire for vengeance. Sometimes the energy build up results in a spell–randomly casting goats everywhere, but other times it is better to take the time to channel that energy elsewhere, like artwork. Hell, in that case, apply to Nemesis, Iusticia, or Themis and at least get a spiritual relationship out of it. The time you invest in anything should move you forward in life, not leave you in a pit of a stale world of regret.
…or maybe you’ve determined that it is worth your time. Now you’re just contemplating the severity of your spell. You’ve even went to buy the asafoetida and voodoo dolls. You’ve gathered all of the psychic links, and you’re ready to get the party started!
…But I have one last question.
- If your intended curse lands and sticks, could you look the person in the eye afterwards without remorse? If that person got hit by a bus going 15 mph and lived to tell about it, how would you feel if you were to see them in crutches or in a wheel chair?
Personally, I don’t think I could without feeling bad. I’d feel pity, and I’d do whatever I could to help them afterwards. In the end, it’s not just about letting the curse land, no, that’s not it at all. It’s the suffering that follows: weeks of recovery in the hospital, the feelings of isolation and inadequacy. The fact of the matter is, just like I am recommending you look internally before firing your gun of vengeance, I am also recommending that you consider that the other person in question also needs to do the same.
Consider the ethical or moral dilemma.
Just think about the hang ups that you are having to unhinge as a magical practitioner. We have something that others around us don’t: the ability to turn inward and make decisions devoid of societal and materialistic pressures. Is it fair to assume the role of judge when we don’t know what they actually need spiritually?
I’m not going to say that no shots should be fired, but I also believe that sometimes a little nuance is necessary. Just as we can bless those who cast our gifts before swine, we could also curse those who have a heart of gold–or at least the potential for it.